Mazel tov! Your little bubala is growing up! As their Bar or Bat Mitzvah approaches, you may begin to feel overwhelmed by all the preparations you’ve got to make. From booking a venue to renting the party essentials to preparing your speech, planning your child’s coming of age party is no small feat! And studies show that Bat and Bar Mitzvah celebrations are becoming even more elaborate with each passing year. Fortunately, any event can be organized successfully with just one rule of thumb: take it one step at a time. Here is a brief guide to planning the perfect Bar or Bat Mitzvah.
- Set a budget: As mentioned above, Bar and Bat Mitzvah celebrations have been getting bigger and more extravagant over time. But your child’s party doesn’t have to be over the top. In addition to setting a practical budget, it’s essential to set realistic expectations so your pre-teen doesn’t envision something out of My Super Sweet 16 and end up miserably disappointed.
- Make a guest list: This step will help you determine the size of your party so you can go on to book an appropriate venue and look at sufficiently sized dance floor rentals. So who would you like to see on your child’s big day? Extended family? Family friends? School mates? Grandparents, of course, are staples at this sort of coming of age celebration, and your child will certainly want their friends to be there. Our recommendation is to start big and narrow down the list based on this simple criterion: who is most important in your child’s life?
- Book the venue: Naturally, the ceremony will take place at your family’s synagogue. But what about the reception? If the Bar or Bat Mitzvah is scheduled for the spring or summer, an outdoor party is a great idea. Find a venue that can accommodate tent and dance floor rentals, and you’ll certainly need extra space to dance the Hora!
- Choose a theme and contact vendors: Pop culture often plays a major role in Bar and Bat Mitzvah themes, and your child may want to reference some contemporary icon you’ve never even heard of! However, simpler is often better. A broader theme lends itself to a wider variety of catering and rental options, especially when it’s time to choose the food they’ll be eating and the music they’ll be boogying down to on the dance floor. Try something seasonal or classic like a Hollywood or carnival theme.
- Prepare your speech: A Bar or Bat Mitzvah traditionally includes words of wisdom from parent to child. To make your speech as effective and memorable as possible, make sure to prepare and rehearse until you’ve got it down perfectly. Though it may be hard, try to focus on advice for the future rather than just reminiscing about days gone by. Also remember to acknowledge the extensive preparation your child has gone through to make this big day a success.
You and your child worked hard to make it to this momentous day. But remember, this big event is all about them and their bright future. Keep their preferences in mind when booking the Bar or Bat Mitzvah rentals and making all your big party plans. You’re going to be one proud parent at the end of the day.